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I enjoyed this book mostly because of the topics surrounding queer heartbreak and the difficulties many trans folks face in discovering their gender identity. i think the topic of emotional abuse in a sapphic relationship was handled really delicately, something i think is important as we continue to shine light on manipulative and physically turbulent lesbian romances. the narrative style was intriguing! i really enjoyed the way plante committed to the memoir bit, especially in her creation of an arcGIS storymaps to fully build upon sadie tangs piece “miscellaneous kisses.” 

i can’t give this book 5 stars because i unfortunately am not an enjoyer of kinky or elongated sexual content. i understand that kink and sex is monumental in transfemme (and transmasc) expression, so i understand why that content is included and how it shapes the characters within the “memoir,” but it’s not something i particularly enjoyed. that being said, i do find it important to continue to consume transfemme erotic media for a few reasons, the major being that due to my own gender identity being closer to transmasc, i’ve often overlooked what sex and gender euphoria looks like to transfemmes. 

anyways, a beautiful piece of literature and i can’t wait to read more of plantes work