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Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex by Casey Tanner
emotional
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Casey’s debut is sensational, revolutionary, and fiercely decolonial. Every moment of this book is trauma-informed, offering a new manifesto for 21st-century collective sexual liberation.
Thank you to Casey and Nina for the eARC!
In her groundbreaking debut, "Feel It All," Casey Tanner presents a revolutionary framework for redefining our relationships with sex, dismantling societal norms, and embracing a holistic approach to sexual wellness. Drawing upon their extensive experience as a certified sex therapist and her personal journey of overcoming the shackles of purity culture and systemic queerphobia, Tanner delivers a compassionate and empowering guide that transcends traditional narratives surrounding sexuality.
Right from the outset, Tanner sets the stage for a deeply introspective exploration, weaving together trauma-informed insights, intersectional feminism, and mindfulness practices to navigate the labyrinthine complexities of intimacy. Embracing themes of decolonialism and trauma-informed care, Tanner beckons readers to embark on a voyage of self-discovery, urging them to cast aside the weight of shame and misconceptions that have long obscured their ability to embrace authentic and fulfilling intimacy.
Central to Tanner's approach is the notion of secure sexuality—an attachment-based framework that challenges conventional notions of "good sex,” inviting readers to reclaim agency over their bodies and desires. Through a fiercely decolonial and queer-centric lens, Tanner celebrates the kaleidoscopic diversity of human expression while advocating fervently for reproductive justice and the unassailable right to bodily autonomy.
One of the book's most compelling aspects is Tanner's emphasis on collective care and empowerment. Rejecting the individualistic models of healing that pervade wellness culture, Tanner advocates for community-centered strategies that foster solidarity and mutual support. In doing so, she confronts the pervasive myths of purity culture, heteronormativity, and the gender binary, offering readers a guiding constellation amidst the vast expanse of desire, attraction, and relationship dynamics.
"Feel It All" is a testament to Tanner's unwavering commitment to anti-oppressive therapeutic practice and survivor-centered care. By unpacking the intersections of trauma, mental health diagnoses, and queerness, Tanner illuminates how systemic injustices inexorably shape our experiences of sexuality and intimacy. Through candid disclosures of their own journey as a survivor, Tanner forges a sanctuary of validation and safety for readers navigating their own paths of trauma and healing.
At the heart of Tanner's work lies a profound understanding of the somatic and neurobiological dimensions of sexual trauma. By exploring the intricate interplay between the autonomic nervous system and the brain, Tanner sheds light on how trauma manifests in the body, disrupting our capacity for intimacy. Through practical exercises and mindfulness techniques, she offers readers a path toward healing and resilience, emphasizing the importance of expanding one's window of tolerance and cultivating self-compassion.
In addition to its rich theoretical insights, "Feel It All" is replete with tangible suggestions, resources, and strategies for building more inclusive and affirming communities. Whether navigating sex accommodations for individuals with disabilities or dismantling the hegemony of the wellness industrial complex, Tanner emboldens readers to interrogate the social structures that perpetuate harm, while kindling the flames of alternative futures rooted in equity and liberation.
In "Feel It All," Casey Tanner offers more than just a book—it is a beacon of hope and possibility in a world shaped by stigma and shame. With its compassionate tone, rigorous analysis, and actionable insights, Tanner's work transcends the boundaries of traditional therapy literature, inviting readers to reimagine their relationships with sex and embark on a sacred odyssey of self-discovery and liberation. "Feel It All" is not just a guidebook; it is a manifesto for 21st-century sexual liberation—a testament to the transformative power of community, resilience, and radical love.
📖 Recommended For: LGBTQIA+ Advocates, Trauma Survivors, Mindfulness Practitioners, Intersectional Feminists, Sexuality Educators, Fans of Sonya Renee Taylor's "The Body is Not An Apology,” bell hooks's "All About Love,” and Sherronda J. Brown’s “Refusing Compulsory Sexuality.”
🔑 Key Themes: Decolonialism, Trauma-Informed Care, Collective Healing, Mindfulness and Somatic Healing, Intersectionality, Anti-Oppression, Queer-Centrism.
Thank you to Casey and Nina for the eARC!
In her groundbreaking debut, "Feel It All," Casey Tanner presents a revolutionary framework for redefining our relationships with sex, dismantling societal norms, and embracing a holistic approach to sexual wellness. Drawing upon their extensive experience as a certified sex therapist and her personal journey of overcoming the shackles of purity culture and systemic queerphobia, Tanner delivers a compassionate and empowering guide that transcends traditional narratives surrounding sexuality.
Right from the outset, Tanner sets the stage for a deeply introspective exploration, weaving together trauma-informed insights, intersectional feminism, and mindfulness practices to navigate the labyrinthine complexities of intimacy. Embracing themes of decolonialism and trauma-informed care, Tanner beckons readers to embark on a voyage of self-discovery, urging them to cast aside the weight of shame and misconceptions that have long obscured their ability to embrace authentic and fulfilling intimacy.
Central to Tanner's approach is the notion of secure sexuality—an attachment-based framework that challenges conventional notions of "good sex,” inviting readers to reclaim agency over their bodies and desires. Through a fiercely decolonial and queer-centric lens, Tanner celebrates the kaleidoscopic diversity of human expression while advocating fervently for reproductive justice and the unassailable right to bodily autonomy.
One of the book's most compelling aspects is Tanner's emphasis on collective care and empowerment. Rejecting the individualistic models of healing that pervade wellness culture, Tanner advocates for community-centered strategies that foster solidarity and mutual support. In doing so, she confronts the pervasive myths of purity culture, heteronormativity, and the gender binary, offering readers a guiding constellation amidst the vast expanse of desire, attraction, and relationship dynamics.
"Feel It All" is a testament to Tanner's unwavering commitment to anti-oppressive therapeutic practice and survivor-centered care. By unpacking the intersections of trauma, mental health diagnoses, and queerness, Tanner illuminates how systemic injustices inexorably shape our experiences of sexuality and intimacy. Through candid disclosures of their own journey as a survivor, Tanner forges a sanctuary of validation and safety for readers navigating their own paths of trauma and healing.
At the heart of Tanner's work lies a profound understanding of the somatic and neurobiological dimensions of sexual trauma. By exploring the intricate interplay between the autonomic nervous system and the brain, Tanner sheds light on how trauma manifests in the body, disrupting our capacity for intimacy. Through practical exercises and mindfulness techniques, she offers readers a path toward healing and resilience, emphasizing the importance of expanding one's window of tolerance and cultivating self-compassion.
In addition to its rich theoretical insights, "Feel It All" is replete with tangible suggestions, resources, and strategies for building more inclusive and affirming communities. Whether navigating sex accommodations for individuals with disabilities or dismantling the hegemony of the wellness industrial complex, Tanner emboldens readers to interrogate the social structures that perpetuate harm, while kindling the flames of alternative futures rooted in equity and liberation.
In "Feel It All," Casey Tanner offers more than just a book—it is a beacon of hope and possibility in a world shaped by stigma and shame. With its compassionate tone, rigorous analysis, and actionable insights, Tanner's work transcends the boundaries of traditional therapy literature, inviting readers to reimagine their relationships with sex and embark on a sacred odyssey of self-discovery and liberation. "Feel It All" is not just a guidebook; it is a manifesto for 21st-century sexual liberation—a testament to the transformative power of community, resilience, and radical love.
📖 Recommended For: LGBTQIA+ Advocates, Trauma Survivors, Mindfulness Practitioners, Intersectional Feminists, Sexuality Educators, Fans of Sonya Renee Taylor's "The Body is Not An Apology,” bell hooks's "All About Love,” and Sherronda J. Brown’s “Refusing Compulsory Sexuality.”
🔑 Key Themes: Decolonialism, Trauma-Informed Care, Collective Healing, Mindfulness and Somatic Healing, Intersectionality, Anti-Oppression, Queer-Centrism.
Moderate: Suicidal thoughts and Forced institutionalization
Minor: Eating disorder and Sexual harassment