Book Review
3/5
"Not much value added; nice that someone compiled it."

The first big caveat is that the data here were gathered by survey, which is a notoriously unreliable method of data collection because of self-selection biases. 

That said: There are lots of cases here, but I think that the same as “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way,” it's easy to imagine that "sexually satisfied couples are all alike, and sexually dissatisfied ones are all dissatisfied in their own way." 

It has also been said that "Proximity kills sexual desire faster than fainting." (David Buss book.)

Marriage is the ultimate proximate situation, and nobody has to wonder why sex stops after marriage.

One situation that can happen (that was not dealt with in this book) is the case where the husband has an active sexual past and when he gets married he must learn to live with one woman. 

I've talked to a lot of guys who are professional "mongers," and they say that they could never imagine being married to someone and not bored out of their mind after one year.

Others have said that their interest in a woman only lasts about 2 hours. 

And it does make sense, because when you see people that are celebrities (who have access to unlimited amounts of trim), the minority trajectory is to have all children with one person. 

-Ray Charles had 12 kids by 9 women, but he couldn't stay married.
-Prince had hundreds of women in his life, but zero children and he couldn't seem to make one marriage work. 
-Rollo Tomassi claims to have a body count of 40, but only one child.
-The 21 NFL players with the most children have 141 between all of them (6.7 per man) with a total of 78 women (The average man has children with 3.7 women, and the average woman has 1.8 children.)

So it is clear that even independent of children,  sexual variety is preferred and monogamy is not a natural state.

But then.....

I think scientists have found out that the dopamine / oxytocin effects from being in love top out at 2 years. 

So, getting married and staying with one person for 30 years is probably a good way to be sexually bored for 15 or 20 of them. 

So, with these things all known, are all of these stories ineluctable catch 22s?

CHOICE 1:

After you have sex with everybody that you want to and deal with the difficulty of settling down with one.

CHOICE 2: 

You DO do it the right way and get ready to be bored out of your mind at some point? 

One possibility that was not explored in this book at any length is that of an open marriage. (That book was written by Jenny Block and is entitled "Open.")

But, in real life, the danger that I have seen with that is that the person ends up leaving their spouse for the one with whom they have more sexual attraction - - even if it is only transient.

The approach to marriage that I have seen that works best is the Orthodox Jewish / Muslim / Mormon type way. 

In the first (which I am), People only have two weeks out of every month available for sexual activity and they do not interact with / touch any woman who is not their wife. (Some men go a little bit further, and they will not even make eye contact with a woman who is not their wife or look at another woman.)

This life also goes with no television and a generally very regimented existence. 

But, as evidenced by the fact that the average Orthodox house has about 5.5 children, it does seem that regular sex is a thing. 

Is that worth it to most people? 

As was mentioned in the book, sex is only 3% of a marriage. 

Verdict: I might recommend this book at no more than the price of $5. I doubt that I will be rereading it, because I doubt that I will be keeping it. 

The more suitable style for this might have been something like the Hite report or the Kinsey report: More time spent on quoting interviews at length than therapeutic speculation.

Quote ("Beautiful Stranger"): "Show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you a man that's tired of *beeping* her. "