I enjoyed this book so much. It was a journey to self-love, about family, church, religion, and friendship pressures. It's not just the main character that grows, so do the people around her. Her Nigerian background was written in a way that I understood, and key themes of self-awareness, racism, and skin tone were explored.  I don't like comparing books, but it was a black Bridget Jones more modern with teeth.

I really wanted to like this book…
A lot of people are comparing it to Bridget Jones Diary and I also hated that book so I guess that makes sense.
I appreciated the theme of women not needing a man to be happy and to be content with who you are. I liked the creativity of using mixed media (like Google searches etc) in the chapters.
However, I found the main character extremely u likable, constantly making nonsensical decisions and judging everyone else. I thought the dialogue was cringey and unbelievable. And honestly, I was just grimacing the whole time 😭 

Lizzie wrote this book beautifully. She challenges the thought that women need to be married before they are 30 and if they aren't they are spinsters. Yinka is 31 and single. She is having a bad year. Starting with her little sister gets married and is pregnant before her. She's been let go from her job instead of getting a promotion that she has been working hard for. She runs into her ex-fiancé and his new girlfriend. The topper is her cousin is getting married and her mother and aunties want her to bring a boyfriend. I love Yinka's friends and family. The way Nina and Yinka hang out together and have no problem speaking their truths. I enjoyed this book!

Yinka is immature and seems younger than her thirty-something years. It also feels like I was tricked into thinking this would be a rom-com so I would pick it up. Somehow, I still don’t (totally) mind. It was refreshing to read about someone in her 30s dealing with her insecurities and not being forced into the perfect HEA by the end of the book. I would’ve loved an HEA, but the possibility of something felt more real than any other ending would have. 

A well written story about self love, sisterly love, motherly love, and a quest for true love. 

I both loved and hated Yinka. It was a real rollercoaster. LoL. I loved her at the start of the book as the reader is getting to know her. I felt a lot of sympathy for her—the struggles she was faced with and how she was treated by family. 

But then I hated her as she became completely self absorbed and obsessed with dating. Her lying/omissions spun out of control and she became a disgusting person. I definitely wouldn’t have wanted to be her friend and she’s lucky she didn’t alienate everyone who cared for her. 

After some tough love and hard truths from her friends and family, Yinka worked on herself with the help of a therapist and she stepped into her true self. She gained the self confidence she needed to become the woman she was meant to be.